“Nothing will give us more meaning in life than to know that we matter for others.”
– Esther Perel
In a cover story, The New York Times called her the most important game changer in sexuality and relational health since Dr. Ruth.
Her TED talks on maintaining desire and rethinking infidelity have more than 17 million views, and she’s tested and been exposed to everything imaginable in thirty-four years of running her private therapy practice in New York City.
In this episode, Esther and I explore:
- How to find (and convince) mentors who can change your life.
- What she’s learned from Holocaust survivors.
- Polyamory and close cousins.
- Is there such a thing as too much honesty in relationships?
- Can we want what we already have?
- Why do happy people cheat?
- And much more.
Esther is the author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity, which has been translated into 26 languages. Fluent in nine of them (I’ve heard her in person), this Belgian native now brings her multicultural pulse to her new book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (October 2017, Harper Collins).
Her creative energy is right now focused on co-creating and hosting an Audible original audio series, Where Should We Begin.
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- Stream by clicking here.
- Download as an MP3 by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.”
Want to hear another episode about relationships? — Listen to my interview with Astro and Danielle Teller. In this conversation — my first podcast with a couple — we cover focus on something I haven’t personally figured out: relationships. It’s important to note that the Tellers are not “for” marriage but, rather, “for” the freedom to decide how to live most honestly and happily, whether as part of a couple or as a single person (stream below or right-click here to download):
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QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.
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