For me, this is the most important podcast episode I’ve ever published.
In it, I describe the most life-shaping, certainly the most difficult, and certainly the most transformative journey of my 43 years on this planet. I’ve never shared it before.
My dance partner and safety net in this conversation is my friend Debbie Millman (@debbiemillman). She has been named one of the most creative people in business by Fast Company, and she is the host of Design Matters—a great show and one of the world’s longest running podcasts. She is also Chair of the Masters in Branding Program at the School of Visual Arts and Editorial Director of Print magazine, and she has worked on design strategy for some of the world’s largest brands.
But I didn’t ask Debbie to join me because of her bio. I asked Debbie because she’s a close confidante, she’s an excellent interviewer, and she’s been an incredible support for me in the last few years, including late-night emergency phone calls. Last but not least, she and I have experienced similar trauma but have taken two very different paths to healing using very different tools. So, you get a two-for-one deal in this conversation.
All resources mentioned in this episode—and many more—are listed below. If you have tips, advice, or resources that have helped you, please share in the comments. We will moderate to eliminate any bad actors, snark, or other nonsense.
And if you remember only one thing, remember this: there is light on the other side. I wouldn’t have believed this even five years ago, but I now consider myself living proof that deep, lasting change is possible. Don’t give up. You are never alone, and it is never hopeless. I’m right there alongside you, as are millions of others.
Much love to you and yours,
P.S. Disclaimer: Debbie and I are not doctors or therapists, and we don’t play them on the internet. This episode and blog post are for informational purposes only, and nothing is intended as professional or medical advice in any capacity. Please be smart and be safe.
LIST OF RESOURCES
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BOOKS AND SUGGESTED READING
- Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine with Ann Frederick
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
- Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach
- The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self by Alice Miller
- Dr. Leah Lagos (book, website) on HRV, or Heart-Rate Variability, training
- The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
- The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Laura Davis
- The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
- Know My Name by Chanel Miller
- In the Body of the World by Eve Ensler
- The Apology by Eve Ensler
- Some Practical Thoughts on Suicide by Tim Ferriss
- The Quick-Start Guide to Healing Trauma and Psychological Wounds by Neil Strauss
- A Meditation on Lovingkindness by Jack Kornfield