“People’s feelings about how they are doing financially are highly uncorrelated with their actual financial status.”— Ramit Sethi
Ramit Sethi (@ramit), author of the New York Times bestseller I Will Teach You to Be Rich, has helped tens of millions of people live a rich life with their money, careers, businesses, and psychology. He hosts more than a million readers on his site iwillteachyoutoberich.com, newsletter, and social media. His new podcast, I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi, reveals real stories about love and money from behind closed doors. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to fine podcasts.
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SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
- Connect with Ramit Sethi:
Website | Instagram | YouTube | Twitter
- I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi (Podcast)
- I Will Teach You to Be Rich, Second Edition: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works. by Ramit Sethi | Amazon
- Ramit Sethi — Automating Finances, Negotiating Prenups, Disagreeing with Tim, and More | The Tim Ferriss Show #371
- Ramit Sethi — How Creatives Should Negotiate | The Tim Ferriss Show #166
- Ramit Sethi — Persuasion and Turning a Blog Into a Multi-Million-Dollar Business | The Tim Ferriss Show #33 & #34
- I Tried Out Wash and Fold Laundry Service (And Whether I’ll Ever Do It Again) | A Slob Comes Clean
- The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferriss | Amazon
- 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser (with Science) | Science of People
- Stephen King Accepts the 2003 Medal for Distinguished Contribution to American Letters | National Book Foundation
- Rollin’ | Limp Bizkit
- How to Talk to Your Partner About Money (at Any Stage) by Ramit Sethi | IWT
- 5 Mistakes to Avoid When Making a Prenup Agreement | World Wedding Guide
- Gilt Groupe
- Dave Elitch — How to Get Out of Your Own Way | The Tim Ferriss Show #348
- Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler | Amazon
- Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving Broken Promises, Violated Expectations, and Bad Behavior by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler | Amazon
- A Research-Based Approach to Relationships | The Gottman Institute
- Most memorable money conversations with couples in debt that Ramit has had since our last episode together. [06:06]
- A recent purchase over which I agonized to a degree that seems ludicrous in hindsight. [08:38]
- How do you think about money? Probably not as closely as the guy Ramit knows who has $8 million in net worth but goes out of his way to save $8 on groceries because he hates “the idea of overpaying.” [09:56]
- Why did it take so long for Ramit to start a podcast, and in what ways can a listener expect his show to differ vastly from this one? [12:03]
- Ramit justifies his fascination for toying with trolls, and I share a pro tip for anyone who’s ever being interviewed by a journalist (or podcaster). [14:12]
- In the last 30 days, can you think of a specific situation where you were not on the same page financially with your partner? [16:08]
- What is your idea of a rich life? This is a question with wildly varied answers depending on who you ask, but one truth seems consistent: People’s feelings about how they are doing financially are highly uncorrelated with their actual financial status. [17:18]
- Why Americans’ tendency to compare themselves to their neighbors is completely irrational. [20:16]
- What does Ramit’s rich life look like? [22:16]
- Ramit’s money rules. [23:17]
- What the recent decision to have fresh flowers delivered to my house every week does for my rich life. [24:36]
- Why asking “What is your rich life?” can be such a magical, transformational question — especially when a partner is present. [25:40]
- If you’re a bit of an overspender, have you ever said “No” to your partner or family? [27:38]
- If you were not on the same page financially with your partner at some point in the last 30 days, on a scale of 1 to 10, how big of an issue is it? [28:32]
- A bucket list/rich life goals vision exercise Ramit did with his wife Cassandra, inspired by Stephen King’s 2003 National Book Club Speech. [30:06]
- How Ramit and Cassandra have agreed to financially contribute, together, to their eight-year anniversary goal, and how it feels to watch the fund make progress. [34:55]
- Ramit and Cassandra meet once a month to discuss finances. What does the format look like? [38:21]
- Ramit’s true, but most embarrassing backlog rich life goal. [41:13]
- How to make conversations about money positive experiences rather than negative and depressing. [43:50]
- The typical approach to talking about finances when one half of a couple is an overspender (and/or people pleaser who has trouble establishing boundaries), and what Ramit suggests as a better, more effective alternative. [44:40]
- What needs to happen for a couple to succeed in solving whatever financial problems they have (and avoid passing along toxic money behavior to their offspring). [49:26]
- Why it’s not enough just to want to change your relationship with money, and how psychology and tools can easily be used to affect the desired change — with far less effort than fighting with your spouse about money for the rest of your miserable lives. [52:12]
- An example of a time Ramit saw a 9/10 severity problem with a couple and their money solved simply. [54:38]
- Thoughts and positive listener feedback about prenups since our last conversation. [57:55]
- The $100 challenge. [1:00:12]
- What would result from Ramit’s own $100 (or $1,000 or $5,000) challenge? [1:04:02]
- What would the result of my own challenge look like? [1:07:17]
- Gauging the most important lessons that can be learned from the $100 (or more) challenge, and rejecting the coded-for-fear life of frugality that many of us accept as the default. [1:08:32]
- How Ramit turned a couple’s conversation around a $100+ honeymoon challenge from a downward spiral into an upward one. [1:11:39]
- Thoughts on how we can learn to spend our money in meaningful ways on enjoying and enhancing a rich life rather than endlessly stockpiling it for some unknown purpose in an unforeseeable future. [1:13:06]
- Fascinating patterns around the saving and spending of money that Ramit has noticed in his conversations with couples. [1:20:03]
- Recommendations for further developing the skill of financial comfort and reaffirming the importance of a relationship. [1:24:02]
- Exercising generosity as a way of becoming more like the people we want to be and reinforcing the positive potential of the money we make. [1:25:07]
- How Billy Joel impressed the power of generosity and graciousness upon a teenage busboy named Tim. [1:27:23]
- Parting thoughts. [1:29:42]
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10 Replies to “Ramit Sethi — How to Play Offense with Money, Plan Bucket Lists, Build a Rich Life with Your Partner, and Take a Powerful $100 Challenge (#524)”
Tim – thanks for the perfectly timed episode! I actually have “I will teach you to be rich” in the queue for my reading list this quarter, and am getting married this year…
My fiancé and I are going to begin our monthly financial reviews at the end of this month. Some of the examples provided (i.e. what does our rich life look like), and advice (don’t focus only on scolding spending) were helpful tips for us as we look to get started.
Hey, I never wrote a comment before, but Listening to this episode of the Podcast Made me Kind of angry. Probably its also an American/Europaen Thing, but listening to rich peoples problems and the question how I can make more and more Money and spending IT on ridiculous Things, really? Shipping your luggage, so you dont only destroy the Planet by taking I dont Know how many trips a year by plane?
My husband and I have three kids and we talk fight a Lot about money, but mostly because we wanna Raise our Kids responsible and Show them that their Kids and grandkids will not have a place to live, If the gap between rich and poor ist geTting bigger and bigger and the richer the more resources you use, the more you consume, the more waste you produce, etc.b
I came away with a somewhat similar impression. Although I thoroughly enjoy Ramit’s appearances on the TF show and think he often makes very good points, the gist seemed very consumption-heavy. Instead of buying a high-end handbag every year, why not buy just one well-crafted bag that could last you a decade?
It seemed like a re-hash of a common theme I see on Reddit all the time…..’it gives me joy.’ If gross consumerism is our primary pathway to joy, I can’t help but think modern society is really doing a number on us. Actually, I’m pretty sure it is.
Again, I do enjoy Ramit’s insights but it seemed like ‘Rich Life’ translates to ‘consume more and bigger shit’ and not ‘leverage your wealth to improve the quality of life for yourself, your loved ones, and complete strangers too!’
I know Tim is very philanthropic and it is entirely possible/likely that Ramit is as well (ie…free apps and travel at least!!) This is not meant to be a personal indictment on either of them. I do, however, wish they would use their well-deserved platforms to also focus on the value of simple things that are often free. A ‘rich life’ could also be taking a long walk with your wife or catching your kid’s soccer game instead of chasing after just one more dollar to buy another fancy handbag.
PS..Kudos to Ramit’s wife for choosing to learn Spanish as part of her bucket list!
I see what you mean and had similar thoughts but remembered that not everyone has the same background, culture, awareness and the will to care and that’s ok too.
On the episode I decided to focus on the mental barriers they were talking about rather than the material aspect of a « rich life » This is something worth discussing because there are a lot of things we can buy/invest in that are non material: for ex experiences 🙂
Hello Tim! How can I reach out to pitch my client as a guest for your podcast?
// Suggested angle:
How an investment strategy focused on areas that encourage Human Flourishing (such as psychedelics, mental health, human betterment, wellness and longevity) can contribute to our communities and the planet.
Although first known as an actor, over the last decade my client has cemented his place as an activist and a communicator on environmental issues. He’s excited to share some ideas about how we can evolve our relationship to money and value, and how wiser investments can make a real impact.
On your show, he would be able to explore the concept of ROI versus YBM: Yield Beyond Money (YBM). This is a qualitative and quantitative assessment protocol created by my clients’ impact fund and used to evaluate the intangible values beyond our calculator’s reach.
YBM accounts for the levels of joy, growth, human flourishing that our community of investors, team, and entrepreneurs receive by being intimately engaged with the fund’s investments and each other.
Do you think this could be a good fit for the show? Please let me know to what email I can get in touch to make it happen.
This was great! Thinking about what a rich life means is something we can do on a regular basis. At the end of the day it has nothing to do with the $ amount usually. The Whole Foods no counting of the cart example was very much on point as to how we think about $$. I went through the shopping cart libération process recently and definitely feel blessed about that 🙂
❤️Have a beautiful day everyone, you got this!
P.S for the cart it didn’t change what we buy but how we buy it – less headaches same result 🙂
I imagine you’re more likely to get this than a tweet.
Not sure if you’ve heard of Ido Portal but it would be amazing if you could get him on the show – though admittedly he may not be willing to do so.
Regardless, you may get a lot of value out of his work. A deep thinker and educator.
Regarding the 3rd party you use when discussing financial goals with your spouse: Who do you use?
Hello I’m looking for the language learning podcast Ramit mentioned but can’t find it, do you recall what it is?